I will be turning 25 in a couple of weeks. I have a few friends that have already crossed that threshold and the we all speak of this “Quarter Life Crisis”. Ask anyone over 30 and they will say we are being dramatic. We are not being dramatic, it is a somewhat an indescribable feeling. You like the freedom of being an adult while the responsibility and pressure creates a chip on your shoulder. I want to try to define the “Quarter Life Crisis”.
So let’s take it back to when we were 18 and we had our future planned out. At 25, I was going to be in my career (check but not there yet), making mad money (I’m not poor), living on my own (nope), dam near engaged, (nope again). I had some high expectations and were they realistic? Ehh not all the way. We set high expectations of ourselves and we had no real idea of the world of adulting. And then there are some who has those things and yet still feel this “Quarter Life Crisis”.
It’s this idea that we are supposed to have it together and what the heck is having it together. I know plenty of adults who are 30, 40, and will say they still don’t know that they are doing. I think the “Quarter Life Crisis” is just mixed bags of emotions. It is the fear of the unknown. It is the fear that you won’t accomplished your goals because this 25 deadline is coming or has come and the list still has items that haven’t been checked off. It is this feeling of why am I not satisfied even though life isn’t terrible? It is this feeling that whoa where did the time go? It is also the feeling of being wrong. You just knew this is what you wanted, you get it, and it doesn’t feel good. It is every emotion all the time. Hints, the confusion and the feeling of being overwhelmed.
So how do you get over it?
Frankly, I have no idea. I am so in my “Quarter Life Crisis”. However, I guess the best thing is to keep it moving. The crisis will wear off with time I am sure. Make a new game plan yourself and accomplished those goals. Lastly, stop looking at what other people are doing. Even the people who seem to have it all still feel this way. Take some comfort in the fact that you are not alone.
Let’s just drink and watch Hulu in our Quarter Life Crisis