Chill Out

I was on IG the other day and saw a former classmate and the picture was of her and her guy. And I literally said “Damn, she got a man too!”. More and more I see everyone pair off, waiting for Noah and his ark. I am here trying to figure out my love life is or lack of. While I am sure I am not the only one in the world feeling this way. In my world, that’s exactly how it feels.  I don’t want to be the girl who obsesses over being single but when I am running down the list this is one of the few areas I am not getting my way. I may sound a little dramatic. I will acknowledge that’s me.  Don’t judge me it’s my pzazz.

That’s when those insecurities come to the surface and you start questioning your own value. “Why can’t I meet anyone?” “Is something wrong with me?” “Is it my size?” Here’s fun fact about me – I’m not skinny.  And then the what ifs comes next. “What if I never meet anyone?” “What if there isn’t a soulmate out there for me?”

But then this other voice kicks in. So then I know I am changing and evolving into this self-loving, smart, black girl magic chick. “There is nothing wrong with you or your size. You’re a funny, smart, talented, creative, caring soul, and your king is out there. Stop looking at other people and do you. Be your best and know that God has heard your requests.” And in that moment I find my chill. I don’t know where he at but I have to believe he exists.  The hopeless romantic in me still lives.

I want us all to listen to the second voice that pops in our heads. The voice that is giving yourself praise and comfort. We have to stop looking at other people. It can be very difficult to because we use social media so much. I am still struggling…hints this post. So to all of my fellow single don’t really want to be single girls, we have to find our chill, find some content, and let God do his work.


“One of the main reasons we struggle with insecurity is that we’re comparing our behind-the-scenes with everybody else’s highlight reel.”

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Layne says:

    Great post! One of the things I find myself being reassured in is the fact that I’m still dealing with some insecurities about my weight, growing closer to God etc. I think..”why would he send me someone when I don’t even truly love myself”. Time to work on self. Yes growing closer to 30 is our reality…but when the scale doesn’t read what I want it to, how can I truly want someone to love the body that I’m not even happy with? Now I’m not saying overweight me or anyone for that matter doesn’t deserve love, but it would make me feel 100% better if I’m going into something being happy with my outer appearance. Idk just my thoughts! Best luck in your journey.

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    1. GGBB says:

      I agree with you. I believe everything happens for a reason. And if he hasn’t made an appearance there’s probably some more work for me to do. You have to love you before you can love anyone else. Thanks for reading and your thoughts 😊.


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